Archives October 2025

The Smother Box in BDSM

When breath becomes power, and surrender becomes worship.

In the world of BDSM, few tools embody the tension between power and trust as completely as the smother box. It’s an object both simple and provocative — a physical structure that invites one partner to surrender their breath, their space, and their control to another.

But the smother box isn’t merely a piece of equipment. It’s a psychological stage — one where vulnerability, control, and devotion intertwine.

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Unraveling the Knots: The Complex Role of Shame in Shibari

Shibari, the Japanese art of rope bondage, is a practice revered for its aesthetic beauty, intimate connection, and potential for deep psychological exploration. Among the many emotions it can evoke, the concept of shame holds a complex and sometimes paradoxical role, functioning as both an emotional barrier to be overcome and, for some, a boundary to be safely explored for therapeutic or cathartic release.

The experience of shame in Shibari is far from monolithic, varying greatly depending on the individual’s history, the specific context of the tie, and the intention of the partners.

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Understanding Defamation Law in Canada

Defamation law in Canada exists to protect a person’s reputation from false statements that cause harm. At the same time, it must balance that protection against the constitutional right to freedom of expression under the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The result is a legal landscape that seeks fairness between personal dignity and open public discourse.


What Is Defamation?

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The Takate Kote: The Art of the Box Tie

Among the most iconic ties in Shibari, few carry the same weight of beauty, discipline, and erotic charge as the takate kote. Often called the box tie, this upper-body harness is both a classic restraint and a sensual work of art—an embrace of rope that holds the body in exquisite submission.

At Wickedly Woven, we celebrate the takate kote not just for its structure, but for what it represents: vulnerability, surrender, and the deep intimacy that Shibari creates between rigger and rope bottom.

What Is the Takate Kote?

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The Whipping Post: Where Surrender Meets Desire

Few symbols in history carry the weight of both fear and fascination like the whipping post. Once a place of punishment and public shame, it now whispers to us from the shadows—inviting a new interpretation. In the world of bondage and sensation play, the whipping post is no longer about humiliation forced upon the unwilling. It is about chosen surrender, erotic intensity, and the exquisite thrill of restraint.

At Wickedly Woven, we see the whipping post not as a relic of cruelty, but as a stage for desire. A place where ropes hug the skin, where bodies are displayed in delicious vulnerability, and where every strike of the flogger becomes a kiss of fire against willing flesh.

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