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Unraveling the Knots: The Complex Role of Shame in Shibari

Shibari, the Japanese art of rope bondage, is a practice revered for its aesthetic beauty, intimate connection, and potential for deep psychological exploration. Among the many emotions it can evoke, the concept of shame holds a complex and sometimes paradoxical role, functioning as both an emotional barrier to be overcome and, for some, a boundary to be safely explored for therapeutic or cathartic release.

The experience of shame in Shibari is far from monolithic, varying greatly depending on the individual’s history, the specific context of the tie, and the intention of the partners.

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Understanding Defamation Law in Canada

Defamation law in Canada exists to protect a person’s reputation from false statements that cause harm. At the same time, it must balance that protection against the constitutional right to freedom of expression under the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The result is a legal landscape that seeks fairness between personal dignity and open public discourse.


What Is Defamation?

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The Takate Kote: The Art of the Box Tie

Among the most iconic ties in Shibari, few carry the same weight of beauty, discipline, and erotic charge as the takate kote. Often called the box tie, this upper-body harness is both a classic restraint and a sensual work of art—an embrace of rope that holds the body in exquisite submission.

At Wickedly Woven, we celebrate the takate kote not just for its structure, but for what it represents: vulnerability, surrender, and the deep intimacy that Shibari creates between rigger and rope bottom.

What Is the Takate Kote?

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The Whipping Post: Where Surrender Meets Desire

Few symbols in history carry the weight of both fear and fascination like the whipping post. Once a place of punishment and public shame, it now whispers to us from the shadows—inviting a new interpretation. In the world of bondage and sensation play, the whipping post is no longer about humiliation forced upon the unwilling. It is about chosen surrender, erotic intensity, and the exquisite thrill of restraint.

At Wickedly Woven, we see the whipping post not as a relic of cruelty, but as a stage for desire. A place where ropes hug the skin, where bodies are displayed in delicious vulnerability, and where every strike of the flogger becomes a kiss of fire against willing flesh.

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The Ebi-Crab Shibari Tie: Origins, Structure, and Significance

Introduction

Shibari, the traditional Japanese art of rope bondage, combines aesthetics, connection, and restraint into a deeply expressive practice. One of its more iconic and historically significant ties is the Ebi, or “shrimp” tie—often referred to in the West as the Ebi-Crab Tie. This form of bondage emphasizes deep compression and submission, with roots in traditional Japanese forms of restraint.

Historical Origins

The Ebi tie finds its roots in Hojojutsu, the martial art of restraining prisoners with rope, which was practiced by samurai during the Edo period (1603–1868). In that context, the Ebi position was used as a form of punishment or interrogation, forcing the body into a curled, submissive posture reminiscent of a shrimp. The word “ebi” (海老) in Japanese means shrimp, and the pose mimics the crustacean’s curved body shape.

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The Queening Chair: History, Design, and Cultural Context

Introduction

The queening chair—also known as a facesitting throne—is a specially designed piece of furniture that allows one person to sit or kneel over another’s face. While its purpose is largely sexual, particularly within BDSM and kink communities, the queening chair also holds interesting cultural and historical dimensions. Often associated with dominance and power dynamics, its name references the act of “queening,” where a woman sits on a partner’s face as an expression of sexual control or pleasure.

This article explores the origins, uses, and evolving perceptions of the queening chair, shedding light on how design, sexuality, and culture intersect.

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Caring for Fetish Clothing: A Guide to Preserving Your Latex Investment

Latex fetish wear is a unique and captivating material, known for its second-skin feel, incredible sheen, and ability to accentuate the body’s curves. But unlike regular fabrics, latex requires a special kind of care to maintain its pristine condition, flexibility, and longevity. Proper cleaning and storage are crucial to prevent damage like tearing, discoloration, and a loss of that signature shine.

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Essential Supplies for Latex Care

Before you begin, gather your essentials. You’ll need:

  • Latex-specific cleaner or wash: Never use regular soap or detergent, as the chemicals can degrade the latex. Many brands that sell fetish wear also offer their own cleaning solutions.
  • Silicone-based latex shiner or dressing aid: This is key for achieving that high-gloss finish and making the garment easier to put on.
  • Talc-free powder or dressing aid: This helps to absorb moisture and makes the garment easier to handle and store.
  • Microfiber cloths: These are soft and non-abrasive, perfect for cleaning and polishing.
  • A large, clean basin or bathtub: For washing your garments.
  • Padded hangers: To hang the garments without creating creases or stress points.

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Breath Play in BDSM: Understanding, Safety, and Consent

Breath play—also known as erotic asphyxiation, air restriction, or breath control play—is a form of BDSM where one partner intentionally restricts another’s breathing to create intense sensations. It’s a practice that demands the highest levels of trust, communication, and caution due to its inherent risks.

This is not an activity for beginners. Breath play carries serious dangers, including brain damage, loss of consciousness, and even death. If you choose to explore it, you must approach it with informed consent, skill, and an unwavering commitment to safety.

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The Electrifying World of BDSM: Exploring Diverse Stimulation Types

Electric stimulation within BDSM is a fascinating and diverse realm, offering a unique blend of sensation, control, and intensity. Far from being a monolithic practice, it encompasses a variety of devices and techniques, each providing a distinct experience for those who engage in it. From gentle tingles to intense muscle contractions, understanding the different types of electric stimulation can help practitioners explore this often-misunderstood facet of play safely and pleasurably.

At its core, electric stimulation in BDSM involves the application of small electrical currents to the body, typically through electrodes. These currents interact with nerve endings and muscle fibers, creating a range of sensations that can be both thrilling and highly erotic. Safety is paramount, and it’s crucial to use equipment specifically designed for BDSM use, never household electricity, and always start with very low settings to gauge sensitivity.

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